This Isn’t a Pivot — It’s a Return
A welcome note to the woman I’ve always been (and the ones finding their way back, too)
By Ilja Abbattista
If you’ve landed here, I’d like to say this first:
Welcome. Not to something polished or perfect — but to something real.
This isn’t a rebrand. It’s not a reinvention.
It’s a return.
A return to my voice.
A return to my body.
A return to a truth I’ve spent a lifetime avoiding, over-managing, editing, or softening for others.
What Changed?
I stopped trying to sound professional and started speaking human.
I stopped asking, “What would make them stay?”
And started asking, “What’s true for me?”
I’ve spent years surviving, adapting, performing.
I’ve been the motivator, the overcomer, the coach, the fixer, the fawner.
I’ve also been the woman spiralling over a message, trembling in a voice note, falling apart in the quiet.
And honestly? I’m not hiding that anymore.
Because the women I serve? They don’t need another “together” coach.
They need someone who can hold their chaos — because she’s held her own.
This Space Is For You If…
- You’ve ever lost yourself in love
- You’ve ever masked your needs just to keep peace
- You’ve ever wondered if you were too much or not enough
- You have ADHD, trauma, or both — and feel like you’re always in emotional high-alert
Here, you’ll find:
- Raw blog posts that name what most people avoid
- Voice-led truth from someone who gets it
- A podcast that speaks the unspoken
- Offers, coaching, and support for women who don’t just want to heal — they want to return to themselves
So What Now?
If you’re ready to explore this space with me, here’s what I invite you to do:
👉 Start with this blog post: “I’m Not Too Much — I Was Just Never Met Fully”
👉 Or sign up for my truth-notes below — no spam, no fluff, just honest reflections sent with care.
Yes, I want real truth in my inbox
You don’t need to perform here.
You don’t need to have it together.
You just need to arrive as you are.
I’ll meet you there.
Ilja
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