Healing Trauma-bonds & Learning To Sew Peace
Sewing peace With Tangled Thread Why You Keep Falling for the Wrong Ones For years, I thought love was supposed to feel like a tangle. Knots twisted in my stomach.My mind overthought every detail.Some moments felt like flying — then the crashes left me breathless. That was my thread —wound tight with trauma, dopamine, and […]
How Trauma Shapes Our Boundaries:
Finding Safety in Love and Work Have you ever wondered why it’s so hard to say no? Or why you find yourself giving too much in relationships or at work, even when you’re already stretched thin? If you’re anything like me, you might have learned early on that love and safety were things you had […]
Healing Doesn’t Mean Coping Perfectly –
It Means Meeting Yourself Honestly There are days I feel strong. Then there are days my body shuts down before I can even put a name to what I’m feeling. And when it happens, I still sometimes feel ashamed. Like I should be coping better. Like I’ve failed at being okay. But I haven’t failed. […]
What to Do When You’re Triggered by a Trauma Story
And How I Came Back A few days ago, I woke up full of energy. I had plans, a clear mind, and a sense of motivation. I felt strong and ready for the day. While checking my messages and emails, a LinkedIn post caught my eye. A fellow survivor had commented on a podcast episode, […]
Overthinking in Dating or Life?
It’s Not Just You (And You’re Not Broken) Overthinking in dating or life can feel exhausting, right? If you’ve ever wondered how to stop overthinking in dating and life, you’re not alone. You know that feeling when someone takes too long to reply and suddenly your mind creates 37 different scenarios — each more dramatic […]
The Wave That Hits Me: A Truth I No Longer Hide
There are moments – quiet ones, unexpected ones – when a wave crashes over me. I remember everything I’ve been through. Everything I endured. And everything I achieved on my own. It takes control of my mind, and just like that – poof – the memories come flooding in. The severity of it all…The things […]
This Isn’t a Pivot — It’s a Return
A welcome note to the woman I’ve always been (and the ones finding their way back, too) By Ilja Abbattista Welcome. Not to something polished or perfect — but to something real.This isn’t a rebrand. It’s not a reinvention.It’s a return. A return to my voice.To my body — the one I’ve spent years trying […]
I’m Not Too Much – I Was Just Never Met Fully
For the people who overthink, spiral, and shape-shifts to be lovedBy Ilja Abbattista There was a time I thought I was too much. That I was too sensitive, too reactive. Too intense, too loud, too ‘anything’ for the people around me. And so, like so many people carrying ADHD, trauma, or big nervous systems – I […]