About Ilja Abbattista

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Unmask. Rebuild. Thrive.

Raw. Lived. Unapologetic.


I’m Ilja Abbattista

I am a speaker, trauma and AUDHD coach, storyteller, and truth-teller for women who’ve carried more than they should have ever had to.

I’m not here to play small. And I’m not here to make you feel better – I’m here to tell the truth.

I’ve survived childhood sex abuse, the care system, sex exploitation, trafficking, burnout, menopause and late-diagnosed AUDHD.
Built businesses from scratch. Raised children. Rebuilt a life more than once.

Also, I’ve learned when to stay-and when to walk away in love.


👣 My Story

I’ve walked out of marriage that made me shrink.
I’ve walked out of systems that failed to protect.
I’ve walked into rooms that never expected me to hold power – and owned them anyway.

I don’t just coach from training – I coach from lived experience.

My life has included:

  • Childhood trauma, sexual abuse, and time in the care system
  • Grooming, trafficking, and human slavery across Europe
  • AUDHD, CPTSD, burnout, and navigating post-menopause as a neurodivergent woman, which wasn’t a walk in the park, let me tell you!
  • Divorce, rebuilding, and starting over on my own terms

And through it all, I’ve unmasked myself – layer by layer – until I could finally live as me.


🎙️ What I Do Now

I speak, coach, and create work that cuts through the fluff.
Helping women unlearn shame, rebuild confidence, and show up fully – especially those who’ve survived trauma, are neurodivergent, or have spent years adapting for everyone but themselves.

Who do I work with? :

  • Women ready to unmask, rebuild, and thrive
  • Professionals and organisations ready to go beyond the checkbox of “lived experience”
  • Teams wanting to create safer, more human spaces for survivors
  • Neurodivergent women navigating confidence, dating, and post-menopause life

💥 This Isn’t Empowerment. This Is a Call Forward.

And, if you’ve ever thought,

“I’ve been through worse, but I still don’t feel whole.”

Or

“I don’t know who I am without the mask.”

You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

And I’m here for that.


🔗 Let’s Connect

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