Unmask. Rebuild. Thrive.
Raw. Lived. Unapologetic.
I’m Ilja Abbattista
I am a speaker, trauma and AUDHD coach, storyteller, and truth-teller for women who’ve carried more than they should have ever had to.
I’m not here to play small. And I’m not here to make you feel better – I’m here to tell the truth.
I’ve survived childhood sex abuse, the care system, sex exploitation, trafficking, burnout, menopause and late-diagnosed AUDHD.
Built businesses from scratch. Raised children. Rebuilt a life more than once.
Also, I’ve learned when to stay-and when to walk away in love.
👣 My Story
I’ve walked out of marriage that made me shrink.
I’ve walked out of systems that failed to protect.
I’ve walked into rooms that never expected me to hold power – and owned them anyway.
I don’t just coach from training – I coach from lived experience.
My life has included:
- Childhood trauma, sexual abuse, and time in the care system
- Grooming, trafficking, and human slavery across Europe
- AUDHD, CPTSD, burnout, and navigating post-menopause as a neurodivergent woman, which wasn’t a walk in the park, let me tell you!
- Divorce, rebuilding, and starting over on my own terms
And through it all, I’ve unmasked myself – layer by layer – until I could finally live as me.
🎙️ What I Do Now
I speak, coach, and create work that cuts through the fluff.
Helping women unlearn shame, rebuild confidence, and show up fully – especially those who’ve survived trauma, are neurodivergent, or have spent years adapting for everyone but themselves.
Who do I work with? :
- Women ready to unmask, rebuild, and thrive
- Professionals and organisations ready to go beyond the checkbox of “lived experience”
- Teams wanting to create safer, more human spaces for survivors
- Neurodivergent women navigating confidence, dating, and post-menopause life
💥 This Isn’t Empowerment. This Is a Call Forward.
And, if you’ve ever thought,
“I’ve been through worse, but I still don’t feel whole.”
Or
“I don’t know who I am without the mask.”
You’re not broken. You’re becoming.
And I’m here for that.
🔗 Let’s Connect
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