Unmask. Rebuild. Thrive.
Raw. Lived. Unapologetic.
I’m Ilja Abbattista—
I am a speaker, trauma and ADHD coach, storyteller, and truth-teller for women who’ve carried more than they should have ever had to.
I’m not here to play small. And I’m not here to make you feel better—I’m here to tell the truth.
I’ve survived childhood abuse, the care system, exploitation, trafficking, burnout, menopause and late-diagnosed ADHD.
Built businesses from scratch. Raised children. Rebuilt a life more than once.
Also, I’ve learned when to stay—and when to walk away in love.
👣 My Story
I’ve walked out of marriage that made me shrink.
I’ve walked out of systems that failed to protect.
I’ve walked into rooms that never expected me to hold power—and owned them anyway.
I don’t just coach from training—I coach from lived experience.
My life has included:
- Childhood trauma, sexual abuse, and time in the care system
- Grooming, trafficking, and human slavery across Europe
- ADHD, burnout, and navigating post-menopause as a neurodivergent woman, which wasn’t a walk in the park, let me tell you!
- Divorce, rebuilding, and starting over on my own terms
And through it all, I’ve unmasked myself—layer by layer—until I could finally live as me.
🎙️ What I Do Now
I speak, coach, and create work that cuts through the fluff.
Helping women unlearn shame, rebuild confidence, and show up fully—especially those who’ve survived trauma, are neurodivergent, or have spent years adapting for everyone but themselves.
Who do I work with? :
- Women ready to unmask, rebuild, and thrive
- Professionals and organisations ready to go beyond the checkbox of “lived experience”
- Teams wanting to create safer, more human spaces for survivors
- Neurodivergent women navigating confidence, dating, and post-menopause life
💥 This Isn’t Empowerment. This Is a Call Forward.
And, if you’ve ever thought,
“I’ve been through worse, but I still don’t feel whole.”
Or
“I don’t know who I am without the mask.”
You’re not broken. You’re becoming.
And I’m here for that.
🔗 Let’s Connect
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